Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts
Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts

February 28, 2016

Look at the whole picture before you judge someone

Dear Bloggers,


What is wrong with being a loner? That was the question I asked myself. Nothing I would say although on the other hand a couple of good friends, a partner or even relatives and of course your mom and dad if they are still around. Those are the ones that you need to get the unfinished stuff out of your system. I grew up in a small village at the lakeside in Friesland a place that doubled her population in summer months with tourism and in the winter we lived together like how it goes in a small community.


In those days it was normal to go to elementary school and on Sundays you either went to Sunday school or church in the village. Everyone knew each other so if you did something bad the social control was doing her job. And before you were home your parents knew already about it or the message was on it's way.


Nowadays I drive a commuter bus through the city of Groningen and I see and hear a lot of things that I hardly could imagine during my youth. In this city you are anonymous and some lay dead for many weeks in their shabby apartment's. You also see a growing number of homeless people and drug addicts. They hardly respect anything or anyone as they are surviving in the big mass. Armed robbery is a growing problem as the value of life is forgotten. They will attack you for less than € 50,- Yes, I was thought that everyone should be treated equal no matter what your background is. I learned a lot of animals they simply accept you if you can accept them. In my days on board I read a lot about psychology and was stunned by the fact that I have learned most things through natural and holistic behavior of these great animals.


In my youth I grew up in between horses and ponies and a lot of other animals. I learned that every animal should be treated with respect and you should give them some affection but most of them are not cuddly animals, you learn from scratch how to command respect. You're the boss and there is no doubt about that. The horse is the worker and you're the leader

Before you climb on and sit on a horse or pony, it is very important that you know why a horse or pony does something. A horse mirrors the rider how that works I will try to explain to you in this story. You have to know a lot about a horse before you can sit on it. To most of us it's all quite normal you first take a good look into the character of a dog before we make a purchase. Then most of the time puppy training is followed by one of the family members. We don't want to make any mistakes. Therefore, everyone that wants to become a rider should also take a course to start riding.

In my youth (and that was a while ago) my mom was the caretaker of the farm and dad worked with the horses on their riding school as a child you were told that you had to pay attention to what you could and could not do. Yes, I grew up among horses and all the other animals on the farm. 






We didn't only had the horses and ponies, but also ducks, chicken, rabbits, goats, geese and sometimes we got pigs just for consumption matters, In those years I learned to assist in the births of foals, and I learned when you had to stay and correct or not had to be somewhere else.


As a young bloke you had to help out moving them from stable to the pasture, You learned to pay attention to the posture of the animal, whether it was a horse or a chicken. You saw not only how the animals together, but also dealt with their offspring. Years of experience I carry with me and a little bit of this experience I want to pass on to the horseman or woman of the future.





As a rider you have to move the legs of the horse and the horse does not move you. In the stable, during brushing, but rather as you pick up the horse from the pasture, it begins. That is the base of riding horses.
The horse mirrors the rider, a truth like no other. Where the horse is blamed (beating with a whip) is the rider the error and I mean really they are thinking wrong. The rider gets on with the wrong attitude and the horse follows the match. One problem that I want to solve the rider deliberately should learn during the ground work (working from the ground) being aware of his or her attitude towards the horse.


Groundwork in the raw picture
Natural attitude of the horse and the man/ woman
Guiding a horse or pony
Knowledge of maintenance of the saddle and bridle
Brushing and saddling
Riding bareback



You have probably heard the phrase "Holistic Horsemanship" before. But did you ever stop to think about what this really means? Holistic Horsemanship goes way beyond learning a few techniques or trying to force the same step-by-step method on every horse you meet. 

 
It's a total mindset. It is the very way you interact and communicate, not just in training, but in every moment you spend with your horse. It is the desire to build a trust-based partnership with the horse, and fluency not only in their language, but an intimate understanding of their psychology, biology, herd dynamics, and much more.

The foundation of it begins with an understanding of not only the techniques of natural horsemanship, but becoming fluent in the Language of horses or ponies.
In this hectic and messed up world we have loads of trouble and many things on your mind. You lost a battle and partly yourself and now you will enter the world of the horse, a world that a few horsemen and women truly know.

 
1: Connection & Communication
In this first period we'll cover many of the nuances of the Language of horses, the grammar of which is rich in the use of body language, and the detection and direction of energy. Understanding and mastering of this on your own will set your skills above those of the average horse trainer or enthusiast. It is one of the skills exhibited by Horse Whisperers which makes what they do appear to be magical.




2
: Becoming Fluent in the Language of the horse
In this second period, the obstacle course at liberty, in-hand, and even while riding how to perfect use of your energy, telepathy, and body language to build not only your confidence, but the horse's as well. It also covers the use of the obstacle course liberty training to build the trust-based partnership you've always wanted with your horse and how to avoid behavioral issues with trust-building exercises.



3: Positive Reinforcement and the Proper Use of Reward
In period three, They should teach you how to identify what motivates the horse you're working with and how to use that to bring out the very best in the both of you.It should cover the proper use of food as reward, and under what circumstances you may want to consider using it.



4
: Solving Behavioral Problems Compassionately
During this 4
th period, Find out about some very common problem behaviors you may currently be working with, or if you're around horses for any length of time, you will be confronted by things like: Biting, striking, boxing, trailer loading problems, and evasions while riding, are just a few of the problems covered.


5
: The Horse as Your Personal Self-Help Guru
In this 5
th period, we'll cover how important the use of your mind and making a true connection with the horse on not only a mental but spiritual level is to successful "Horse Whispering". You will see how, in building a trust-based partnership with your horse, you may in fact be looking straight into a mirror, polishing your own rough edges, and in the process, enriching your life and other relationships.here we can discuss the use of the mind, telepathic communication with the horse, and the use of energy in holistic horsemanship.



6
: Holistic Horsemanship From the Ground to the Withers
In this final period You become a real horseman and it ties everything together to show you how you can apply the principles of holistic horsemanship in the saddle. Are you aware exactly how sensitive your horse is, and how they can feel your energy, your moods, and your intent while you're on their back? Do you have an understanding of how the horse can become an extension of your body and mind, and how this connection will improve when you ride using your intuition? You will find out that if you set aside time you can answer some of the most common questions about Horse Whispering and Holistic Horsemanship yourself.

When you learn and commit to master these principles and skills, you will improve not only your horse's life but the lives of every horse with which you come in contact
The Old Sailor,











March 27, 2013

That is my wish...


Dear Bloggers,

Sometimes there are moments in life where shivers run down your spine. This may be of emotion, love, fun moments on television because you're sick, happy or maybe sad or filled with grief. Outside these emotions or feelings, there are many other causes consisting of emotion and chills. When I look up to the sky, I see the beautiful white clouds floating and an airplane flies over with a leaving a beautiful white trail behind on its way towards the sun. Sitting at the computer at home I hear the music on the radio as an emotional tone makes my thoughts play.


Listening to Glennis Grace a great Dutch artist singing “Dat is mijn wens,” translated “That is my wish,”I remember most of the beautiful things in my life. The life which today includes also anxiety, panic, stress and aggression. My mind changed after I fell down the stairs some years ago and I never found the old me back. kicking people to death has become nearly normal in today's society, or shooting people for no reason as well.



It also became normal to insult others or abuse persons in a public job has become one of the most normal things in life. The word "respect" that everyone knows has become totally meaningless. You may try it but it seems to be an impossible task to correct people their behavior. People live in fear of "something might trigger them." And the only way to pay for it is my life. It is scandalous.



 
I think everyone who reads this, has a fun moment in his life and can bring forward something from his or her childhood. Moments from the highest classes of elementry school that you were at camp and you were dating and later saw that she was the cutest or ugliest girl or boy of the class. Children like my daughter Danique, who is dancing to music of K3, slip into the thought that they are playing outside going of the slide, and sleep under a blanket of Winnie the Pooh.


 

Often I wish applicable to the number Glennis Grace, that people could be that child again. Rather than the age, gaming or the leisure. But the variation of thoughts that children have, never have to worry and especially that they are having no real stress or feelings of anxiety or other "common evils". No they rather looking on the bright side of life.



Children are enjoying small things like a cup of tea, a glass of lemonade or a delicious candy. They can enjoy nature, that birds are singing, playing tag or hide and seek behind a thin tree where a parent is actually too thick for it. Nowadays the life about of care and concern. Take care of your immediate family, friends or other very important people in your life. Take care of your family, wife and / or child (ren). 




Of course sometimes it's just not easy, and of course "sometimes" something like that can take years. Life does not go hand in hand with everyday joy, love and romance. Sometimes years go by illness, accident or "it's not today" moment. Sometimes we have to say goodbye to people close to us or someone we should support in his mind as the sun doesn’t shine, but you rather see clouds, and that there are a lot of them that go past you.



Support people, help people or give people the help that they need. As relatives, friends or family grab each other's hand and go happily through this life. When we see children on the news or in the newspapers that carry a gun or tell them while playing tag their brother could be lost because he stepped on a mine, then I'm happy with my wife and daughters, so I doubly enjoy those little things that makes life in the Netherlands not that bad. 



Because what can beat the thought of walking arm in arm on the beach, under a sun that slowly goes down in the North Sea. My daughters running in front of us finding one after the other shell, that looks like a win for their collection! one family, one thought, one feeling to make a desirable family complete. That is my wish...........

The Old Sailor,

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